Almost three years ago in my college dorm year, I started this blog. At first it was short posts that had no citations and were short explanations of different queer identities and intersecting identities in relation to queerness. Then I’d spend time in my school’s library or talking to friends about topics to write about. After graduating and moving, feeling like I found my place in the activism world, I took a break. Things changed and I was feeling very inspired so I started writing again, feeling that I had the time and passion to really put in the work of writing pieces I held a certain standard to.
Blogging is a funny thing. It’s super common and so versatile, but I really held myself to a standard of what I wanted to put out in the world. Eventually, though, my life took another turn and I love it. I really feel that I’m back to the space where I’m doing what I want in the activism world. And with this, I’ve decided to stop writing blog pieces.
Throughout this journey, many of which has been public (See here, here, and here) and some that isn’t, I’ve learned a lot and I thought I’d share my top six lessons along the way in relation to my decision to stop writing. Check it:
- Try to avoid settling. In this case, this refers to jobs, as reasoning behind me stopping my blog has a lot to do with having a busy schedule. But it can also refer to things like relationships. When I moved to Portland, I was in a job I really didn’t like and now I’m in my dream job full time. Of course, there may be times in one’s life where you have to do what you don’t like in order to make it through, but try and find that environment you want to be in, even if it’s while you’re doing something you don’t want (aka the best time to look for a job is while you have one).
- Don’t be afraid to try new things. As I started writing less, I decided to write a piece every other week. The reason I didn’t write a piece the last week of August was because I was at Illage Summer Camp, an unforgettable experience that I normally wouldn’t do. If I had stayed in and not gone to visit my girlfriend at the time, and instead sat in front of my laptop, I would’ve missed out on all of the great memories and experiences. Don’t be afraid to change your routine and get out there and explore.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help. This is an ongoing process, but try and access resources around you when you need support. I try and say this a lot because it can be hard to be vulnerable and admit that you need help.
- Or if possible, try and offer support to others. The question I love when people ask me or to ask others is: “What/Is there anything I can I do to support you?” Try it out when you can, recognizing privileges and skills you might have and are willing to share.
- Keep learning and asking questions. The folks around me know I ask a ton of questions and love to talk, all the time. It’s not something everyone does but I love to take advantage of asking questions to learn more about people and their opinions on different topics, or simply what a word means when I don’t understand. This could also be watching YouTube videos, reading books, and articles.
- Practice self care. This is all over the place, but it relates here. In stopping this blog, I’m recognizing that while I’m not burning out from educating or getting attacked by internet trolls, this blog is feeling like a task and not as much of a passion. Remember to keep your feelings in check about the things you can control in your life.
While I don’t plan on publishing more pieces on here, my inbox firstname.lastname@example.org will still be open. I do hope to have an internet presence elsewhere on the web, and still do have a passion for helping folks surrounding queer identities and struggles they need support with so please reach out.
Also, this blog and its content will still exist as a resource 🙂