On Queer Relationships

So what’s the difference between a straight and queer relationships? Not much, but also kind of a lot. It can be harder to find folks because the majority of our society is straight, plus there are so many intersecting identities that make relationships and attractions surrounding queerness a little more complex. In this piece, I’ll…

On Bicuriousity

I think bisexuality and bicuriousity get a bad reputation. There are so many different ideas of what it means to be bisexual, myths surrounding it, and the constant idea that everyone is a little bit bi. I often think about the stigma and struggles about not knowing one’s sexuality. Just like questioning is a valid…

On Resources, Pt 2.

If you’ve been following this blog from the start (or maybe you just found it and read posts from the past), you may remember that I wrote a piece listing LGBTQ+ resources. While over the years I’ve shared an abundance of information and other sources, I thought it was about time to do another round…

Queerspawn Creators: On Queer Parents

While I’ve written about the parents of queer children, what about queer parents? As a young person, I often forget about identities that I don’t hold. But queer parents are out there and I think don’t get enough recognition and visibility. This piece will not talk much about the science and different processes queer folks…

On Masculinity

Let’s keep this gender expression thing going, yeah? The definition of masculinity is VERY hard to pin down as one thing, probably because it runs on spectrums of gender identities and expressions, and deals with both appearance and personalities. However, in her book Dude, You’re A Fag C.J. Pascoe defines masculinity as “a multiplicity of gender…

On Gender Expression and Transnormativity

While I’ve talked about spectrums, gender identity, and swimsuits, I’ve never specifically written about gender expression. So here it is. I’m going to define gender expression, explain how it can relate or not relate to gender identity, and then talk about transnormativity in relation to gender expression. In simple terms, gender expression is an individual’s…

IMO: On Queer Misconceptions

Queer identities are complex, filled with intersections and language that not everyone understands. It can be frustrating when someone doesn’t understand something that might be a big part of your identity, which is where the education comes in. Here are some of the most popular things I think folks don’t really understand about the queer…

I’m Back: On Bicoastal Queerness

Hey there, remember me? Jess here! Blogging is radical and I miss it so I thought I’d start writing again. I’ve got a lot to say because the past few months have given me a lot to talk about. So get ready. If you’re getting this in your email, I hope you’re excited. Oh, and…

On the Parents of Queer People

Disclaimer: This is not only for parents. It is really just a how to be an ally post, but I wanted to bring in that specific audience because I think it’s really important. I hate telling people want to do because I think everyone should be able to make their own choices and decide what…

On Trans Allyship

Awhile back, about a year and a half ago, I wrote a piece on allyship. You can see that here. However, the past few weeks I learned a lot more about being an ally. The reason this post is a little later than usual is because I was out being a camp counselor at Camp…