On Queer Relationships

So what’s the difference between a straight and queer relationships? Not much, but also kind of a lot. It can be harder to find folks because the majority of our society is straight, plus there are so many intersecting identities that make relationships and attractions surrounding queerness a little more complex. In this piece, I’ll…

On Bicuriousity

I think bisexuality and bicuriousity get a bad reputation. There are so many different ideas of what it means to be bisexual, myths surrounding it, and the constant idea that everyone is a little bit bi. I often think about the stigma and struggles about not knowing one’s sexuality. Just like questioning is a valid…

On Resources, Pt 2.

If you’ve been following this blog from the start (or maybe you just found it and read posts from the past), you may remember that I wrote a piece listing LGBTQ+ resources. While over the years I’ve shared an abundance of information and other sources, I thought it was about time to do another round…

Take a Look: On Pride

To start off the summer right, let’s talk about June. June is pride month. With all the history written on pride (see resources below), I thought I’d take a more visual approach to covering pride, by using photos. I’ll show some of the history and then some photos from different pride celebrations in different locations….

On Masculinity

Let’s keep this gender expression thing going, yeah? The definition of masculinity is VERY hard to pin down as one thing, probably because it runs on spectrums of gender identities and expressions, and deals with both appearance and personalities. However, in her book Dude, You’re A Fag C.J. Pascoe defines masculinity as “a multiplicity of gender…

IMO: On Queer Misconceptions

Queer identities are complex, filled with intersections and language that not everyone understands. It can be frustrating when someone doesn’t understand something that might be a big part of your identity, which is where the education comes in. Here are some of the most popular things I think folks don’t really understand about the queer…

But Jess I want to meet Queer Folks: On Finding Community

When I first came out, I’m pretty sure pretty quickly I had a conversation on the best place to find other queer friend and/or lovers. It can be hard to do, especially if someone isn’t out and proud, in an environment that is populated with a lot of queer folks, or is just shy. Along…

I’m Back: On Bicoastal Queerness

Hey there, remember me? Jess here! Blogging is radical and I miss it so I thought I’d start writing again. I’ve got a lot to say because the past few months have given me a lot to talk about. So get ready. If you’re getting this in your email, I hope you’re excited. Oh, and…

On the Parents of Queer People

Disclaimer: This is not only for parents. It is really just a how to be an ally post, but I wanted to bring in that specific audience because I think it’s really important. I hate telling people want to do because I think everyone should be able to make their own choices and decide what…

On Queer People With (Dis)abilities

This title may look familiar. That’s because I had a post about this intersection of identities on this blog up for awhile. However, somewhere in editing or customizing, I deleted it, probably because I didn’t think it provided enough information in comparison to other pieces. But no worries, I didn’t forget about it, especially because…