First Person: On Polyamory, Pt. 2

When I learn more about a queer topic or identity, I typically use my blog as an outlet to spread the information. As of pretty recent, as I mentioned here, I identify as polyamorous. In my exploration of where I lay on the spectrum, here are some of the things I learned. Since I don’t…

On Queer Relationships

So what’s the difference between a straight and queer relationships? Not much, but also kind of a lot. It can be harder to find folks because the majority of our society is straight, plus there are so many intersecting identities that make relationships and attractions surrounding queerness a little more complex. In this piece, I’ll…

On Bicuriousity

I think bisexuality and bicuriousity get a bad reputation. There are so many different ideas of what it means to be bisexual, myths surrounding it, and the constant idea that everyone is a little bit bi. I often think about the stigma and struggles about not knowing one’s sexuality. Just like questioning is a valid…

On Gender Expression and Transnormativity

While I’ve talked about spectrums, gender identity, and swimsuits, I’ve never specifically written about gender expression. So here it is. I’m going to define gender expression, explain how it can relate or not relate to gender identity, and then talk about transnormativity in relation to gender expression. In simple terms, gender expression is an individual’s…

Yes is Mandatory: On Sexual Consent

As I mentioned in my last post, I had sex for the first time here in Portland. Since I only moved here last July, it really wasn’t too long ago. In my time here, I’ve learned so much about consent and have been so shocked about how respectful and aware folks have been. I oftentimes…

I’m Back: On Bicoastal Queerness

Hey there, remember me? Jess here! Blogging is radical and I miss it so I thought I’d start writing again. I’ve got a lot to say because the past few months have given me a lot to talk about. So get ready. If you’re getting this in your email, I hope you’re excited. Oh, and…

Let’s Talk Slurs: On the term “Tranny”

In case you missed the memo, I doing a segment on slurs. So far I’ve talked about the terms dyke and fag. Since three’s a charm, I’m doing one more. This time I’m talking about the slur “tranny” I think it’s important establish once more what I mean when I use the word slur.  The…

A Note on Virginity

I’ve been waiting and waiting to talk about this because I really love this topic. But at the same time, I don’t. See, I don’t really believe in virginity. I mean what constitutes me losing my virginity? In our heteronormative society, it’s oftentimes seen as when a woman has vaginal sex with a man. But…

Gender Inclusive Bathrooms

Transgender Visibility Week was last week. I it is important to discuss an issue that has not seen as much visibility: gender inclusive bathrooms. In the simplest terms, gender inclusive bathrooms are bathrooms that are not separated by gender and they are most often seen in homes or residence hall rooms. However, this is not…