First Person: On Polyamory, Pt. 2

When I learn more about a queer topic or identity, I typically use my blog as an outlet to spread the information. As of pretty recent, as I mentioned here, I identify as polyamorous. In my exploration of where I lay on the spectrum, here are some of the things I learned. Since I don’t…

On Queer Relationships

So what’s the difference between a straight and queer relationships? Not much, but also kind of a lot. It can be harder to find folks because the majority of our society is straight, plus there are so many intersecting identities that make relationships and attractions surrounding queerness a little more complex. In this piece, I’ll…

Queerspawn Creators: On Queer Parents

While I’ve written about the parents of queer children, what about queer parents? As a young person, I often forget about identities that I don’t hold. But queer parents are out there and I think don’t get enough recognition and visibility. This piece will not talk much about the science and different processes queer folks…

On Masculinity

Let’s keep this gender expression thing going, yeah? The definition of masculinity is VERY hard to pin down as one thing, probably because it runs on spectrums of gender identities and expressions, and deals with both appearance and personalities. However, in her book Dude, You’re A Fag C.J. Pascoe defines masculinity as “a multiplicity of gender…

On Gender Expression and Transnormativity

While I’ve talked about spectrums, gender identity, and swimsuits, I’ve never specifically written about gender expression. So here it is. I’m going to define gender expression, explain how it can relate or not relate to gender identity, and then talk about transnormativity in relation to gender expression. In simple terms, gender expression is an individual’s…

IMO: On Queer Misconceptions

Queer identities are complex, filled with intersections and language that not everyone understands. It can be frustrating when someone doesn’t understand something that might be a big part of your identity, which is where the education comes in. Here are some of the most popular things I think folks don’t really understand about the queer…

But Jess I want to meet Queer Folks: On Finding Community

When I first came out, I’m pretty sure pretty quickly I had a conversation on the best place to find other queer friend and/or lovers. It can be hard to do, especially if someone isn’t out and proud, in an environment that is populated with a lot of queer folks, or is just shy. Along…

I’m Back: On Bicoastal Queerness

Hey there, remember me? Jess here! Blogging is radical and I miss it so I thought I’d start writing again. I’ve got a lot to say because the past few months have given me a lot to talk about. So get ready. If you’re getting this in your email, I hope you’re excited. Oh, and…

On Queer People With (Dis)abilities

This title may look familiar. That’s because I had a post about this intersection of identities on this blog up for awhile. However, somewhere in editing or customizing, I deleted it, probably because I didn’t think it provided enough information in comparison to other pieces. But no worries, I didn’t forget about it, especially because…

Let’s Talk Slurs: On the Term “Fag”

In case you missed my last post, I doing a segment on slurs. In other words, in the coming weeks I’m going to write separate pieces on popular slurs in the LGBTQ+ Community. Regarding slurs themselves, the book We Did What?! Offensive and Inappropriate Behavior in American History explains: “Ultimately the meaning of a slur and…